Depression and Anxiety
Your Patience Ran Out Before the Day Did
You snapped at your spouse… again.
Everyone around you seems to irritate you, and it gets harder every week to care about what anyone else is going through.
Underneath the sharp words sits a tiredness that goes all the way down, where caring feels like too much work.
That edge in your voice is what running on empty sounds like out loud.
Argue Away Enough Compliments and Your Friends Stop Calling
Invitations from friends get turned down, and the things you used to love don’t bring you pleasure anymore.
A friend’s silence after your text reads as proof they don’t like you, or that they’re ignoring you on purpose. Hours later you’re still on edge, turning that silence over and over.
Compliments fall flat, because you feel worthless and can list every reason they can’t possibly be true. Eventually you pull back so far that your friends really do stop calling.
You’re tired of feeling tired.
Trace the Messages You Tell Yourself About Your Worth
I work from a psychodynamic framework, which means we look underneath, at your emotional life and your relationships, to learn what shapes the messages you tell yourself.
Your earliest relationships taught you what you’re worth, and those lessons still write the script for the voice that talks you out of every compliment.
Once you hear where that voice learned its lines, you can start to question what it says.
Let the Irritation Show Up With Me
The same irritation that sharpens your voice at home will surface here too, along with the mistrust and the urge to go quiet and pull away.
What happens between you and me reflects the way you relate to the people you love.
So when you catch yourself doubting me, or sabotaging the work, we’ll name it and look at it together, right there in the session.
We’ll notice the moments of connection too, because they show you what’s possible outside this room.
Catch the Moment Your Voice Goes Flat
By tracking your body, I notice the moment you begin to go flat or far away.
Say you’re telling me about snapping at your spouse and your voice drains of feeling: I’ll ask you to feel your feet on the floor, take one full breath, and look around the room with me.
With curiosity, we’ll explore what tips you into feeling safe, on alert, or shut down, and how each state colors the way you read a friend’s silence.
Find the Energy for the People You Love
Picture having the energy for your normal routines again, with enough left over to ask your spouse how their day went and actually want to hear the answer.
A compliment from a friend can be received without the harsh critique that used to follow it.
Knowing you’re worthy of connection makes it easier to say yes to the next invitation.
Your body can settle, and joy has room to come back.
Start Tending to What’s Worn You Out
I see people virtually throughout Michigan and in person at my Traverse City office.
Let’s quiet the self-sabotaging thoughts, lessen the fatigue of depression, and build your connection with others.
To get started, schedule a free 20-minute consultation, and we’ll talk about how to take some of that emotional weight off your shoulders.
There is hope and relief ahead.
It’s Time to Heal Your Heartache
You’ve kept company with this pain long enough.
I’ll accompany you into the painful places, where you can feel truly seen, and together we’ll clear a way through, one step at a time.
Ready to begin restoring your relationships and finding your full self again? Schedule your free consultation today.